1. Reality
I talked to a young businessman in Marabá. He’s a believer—from another denomination. I remember meeting him over a year ago when he proudly introduced his leader, standing nearby. Out of curiosity, I asked how his leader—a seasoned church planter and person in their group, also his brother-in-law—was doing. His response was unexpected: “Oh, he left my sister. She was his fourth wife,” and he made the quotation marks gesture. He added, “He is now with another lady. He still speaks in [their group] churches, though, because the gifts of God are without repentance.” I understood he thought that since the gifts are not conditional to moral behavior, it was okay or even good to keep using them.
My friend obviously loves God. And he has a strong prophetic gift. But now he feels his church undervalues his gift, and he’s also struggling. I want to keep our friendship open so that God can use me when the time is right.
2. Vision
Our collective dream, and God’s, is for us to be transformed into His image—equipping us to reign and rule in the age to come. Consider these promises:
“And Jesus said to them, ‘Truly I say to you, that you who have followed Me, in the regeneration when the Son of Man will sit on His glorious throne, you also shall sit upon twelve thrones… many who are first will be last; and the last, first’” (Mt. 19:28-30).
“You have made them into a kingdom and priests to our God, and they will reign upon the earth” (Rev. 5:10).
How do we actively transform so our behavior and attitudes match God’s desire for us?
3. Challenge
It’s tempting to surround ourselves only with “people like us,” a small, dedicated congregation that feels predictable and safe. However, individuals in this “holy” group often hide their personal struggles or, worse, are unaware of them. In contrast, engaging with a mixed group exposes us to a messy, diverse spectrum of ethical and moral challenges. Here, temptations abound, and even though justifications for unacceptable attitudes may arise, admitting struggles is acceptable because learning and transformation are expected.
I recall hearing John Wimber on a cassette tape 30 years ago, advising pastors—those who longed for spiritual growth—to understand that “The meat is in the street.” I understood he meant that deeper spiritual growth happens less in a church building and more out where life is messy and real. As Hebrews 5:12-14 reminds us:
“But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil” (KJV, Heb. 5:14).
We practice spiritual maturing (the meat of the Word) by transforming from those who are influenced to becoming the influencers.
4. Solution
Jesus never promised that the journey would not have scary elements.
“Go; behold, I am sending you out like lambs in the midst of wolves” (Luke 10:3).
We practice our “lamb superpowers” by hanging out with wolves. Jesus is known as a friend of gluttons, heavy drinkers, tax collectors, and sinners (Luke 7:34). He remains centered in His identity, unaffected by the chaos around Him. Jesus’ instructions were ramped up to a whole new level when He moved from servant leaders to slave leaders. Is that even possible?
“But it is not this way among you; rather, whoever wants to become prominent among you shall be your servant; and whoever wants to be first among you shall be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many” (Mk 10:43-45).
NOTE: We need to be careful with the idea of losing self and letting others dominate us. If you are in danger, please get professional help. But we also remember that spiritual growth through adversity is on the path to influential leadership.
“In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which perishes though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise, glory, and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ” ( 1 Pt. 1:6-7).
5. Action
This week, consider actively observing your emotional responses. When you feel a negative emotion rising, pause and reflect:
• What triggered the emotions?
• When did they first form, and were they once helpful?
• Are they still serving you, or is the Holy Spirit using a situation to train you?
Allow these moments to guide you in your journey. Embracing the servant-leader or even the slave-leader mindset transforms the perspective of mature believers—turning adversaries into unexpected allies God uses to refine the character of His close friends so that He can entrust them with greater privileges and responsibilities.
Do you think this makes sense?
Your thoughts?